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Roundtable: Is There Anything Hot About the Holidays?

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The winter vacation season might be tough, particularly for LGBTQ+ of us. Many people affiliate the vacation season with visiting homophobic kin, draining our financial institution accounts, loneliness, delayed flights, being away from companions, being away from relations who don’t wish to see us and different Very Unsexy Issues. So I’ve been questioning: is there something sizzling concerning the holidays? And if not, is there something we are able to or ought to do to make the vacations really feel somewhat…sexier? Right here’s what some Autostraddle writers and editors should say:

The new issues concerning the holidays are, after all: attractive outfits, my birthday and FRIENDSHIP. You didn’t suppose I might probably say anything, did you? This yr is definitely going to suck for me as a result of the Jewish one yr anniversary of my dad’s loss of life falls ON my birthday and the secular one yr anniversary of my dad’s loss of life falls on New 12 months’s Eve, so to not be miserable in an attractive spherical up, however, uh, I think about the tip of the yr goes to be tough… however all of the extra purpose to lean into the shit that makes me really feel good and sizzling and alive in my physique!

Should you’re somebody who has at all times hated the vacation season (I used to be not, till my dad died) listed here are my three HOT TIPS (see what I did there?):

  1. Discover a actually actually attractive outfit that makes you are feeling superb and is type of flippantly holiday-themed (or intensely holiday-themed, if that’s your jam) and discover a time to put on it and take unimaginable selfies both for your self or for some babes in your life.
  2. Have a good time my birthday! I’m kidding, type of, besides I’m not as a result of my birthday falls on the winter solstice! It doesn’t matter what vacation(s) you grew up celebrating, I discover it extremely grounding and dare I say it — HOT — to acknowledge the seasons shifting and the earth turning and the world being enveloped within the darkness of night time on the shortest day of the yr. Make a solstice hearth, mild some candles, do a tarot unfold, simply shut your eyes and breath.
  3. LEAN INTO YOUR FRIENDS. That is really the sexiest transfer of all time twelve months a yr, however it may be particularly magical and significant across the holidays. Even when it’s important to be with your loved ones, schedule somewhat FaceTime name along with your bestie. Should you’re capable of, have fun the entire dang vacation along with your friends. Make these plans upfront so if issues begin to really feel bleak nearer to the precise holidays, you have already got your joyful place locked in. Friendship is admittedly actually sizzling and I invite you to embrace that this vacation season.

I’m Jewish and don’t have fun Christmas, however just a few years in the past, my mates and I began a convention of going to the hipster strip membership in Brooklyn on Christmas Eve and it’s THE BEST. There’s a very cool vibe in there on Christmas, and it’s a good time to overpay for shitty alcohol and provides a bunch of sizzling women all your cash.

Additionally, I’ve been working pretty always since coming again to my job over the summer season (which I’m grateful for!). The vacations are the one assured downtime I actually get all yr. I’ve been seeing somebody for some time however haven’t actually had time obtainable for the extent of boning I really feel we ought to be doing. She’s been so affected person! I intend to repair this whereas I’ve many days off in a row. So these are my vacation plans, which appear fairly sizzling to me.

In fact because the resident lesbrarian, my tackle this query is make the holigays sizzling with steamy queer vacation books! Some strategies:

  1. Eight Kinky Nights by Xan West, a queer, kinky, butch-femme Hanukkah romance that includes older characters who’re falling in love and figuring their shit out
  2. Social gathering Favors by Erin McLellan, about two on-line BFFs who lastly meet in individual for an NYC New 12 months’s Eve and uncover their searing chemistry (additionally, intercourse toys!)
  3. Written within the Stars by Alexandria Bellefleur, a romance between a messy, bi, boxed-wine-drinking social media astrologer and an uptight, $56-a-glass-chardonnay-drinking lesbian actuary with belief points. Set between American Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve, however not too vacation targeted!
  4. Christmas Inn Maine by Chelsea M. Cameron, about Colden, a nonbinary demigirl, who finally ends up stranded at an inn in Maine over Christmas, and the inn’s homeowners are the dad and mom of her work nemesis, who they could simply have a crush on.
  5. Mangos and Mistletoe by Adriana Herrera, a romance set in wintery Scotland amidst a baking competitors. Two Dominican girls are paired collectively to compete. At first they don’t like one another, however then they’re pressured to share a mattress…and you already know the place that leads!

Over the previous couple of years I’ve shifted away from Christmas (which feels inherently tied to my evangelical household and Jesus-centered traditions) and into honoring Yuletide, a winter solstice celebration that under no circumstances jogs my memory of my blood kin and leaves loads of room for spells, magic and chosen household (and like Vanessa, my girlfriend’s birthday is on the winter solstice, which makes this time of yr really feel much more particular). This yr my girlfriend and I are going to journey to a heat and wonderful place for the vacations, and I can’t wait to drink cocktails on a seashore and fuck in a swanky room and put on a swimsuit for dinner on the fanciest resort restaurant. However even with out lastly getting on a airplane for the primary time in over two years, I completely suppose that the vacations might be sizzling: snuggling below blankets speaking or watching a favourite film, strolling by means of town and lights and store home windows, shopping for one another new intercourse toys or lingerie and spending the remainder of the day in mattress. I consider so firmly within the potential sexiness of the vacations that I even wrote a complete rattling reward information about it. Winter might be sizzling!

Actually, Christmas lights? Are attractive and excellent lighting? I imply, I nonetheless purchase strings of fairy lights from City Outfitters prefer it’s 1997 and they’re up yr spherical, however the Christmas palette simply amps up the ambiance. Add some candles to that room and w o w everyone appears to be like sizzling and smells nice. Giving presents to individuals you like? Highly regarded. You may’t actually curl up in mattress all day on the fourth of July you already know? However on Christmas, sure, everyone stays inside and shut.

My birthday is on Christmas Eve, and on my twenty first birthday, I attached with somebody and it was one of many hottest, sweetest nights of my life. I promised the individual I wouldn’t speak about it — this was pre-transition, so the explanations are healthful — however let your imaginations run wild as a result of it was such a pleasant night time. Earlier than transitioning, my relationship to intercourse was actually off, and I feel it’s as a result of this individual and I didn’t have intercourse that allowed it to be so attractive?? It was actually the primary time I spotted that sensuality and intimacy might be greater than the cisheteronormative concepts of intercourse that had been instilled in me. Okay and in addition final yr I had a threesome that began on my birthday and ended on Christmas after which I fell asleep watching Carol (my yearly custom), so I suppose that qualifies, too.

I labored at a intercourse toy retailer for a number of years. Each December, I acquired to show holiday-themed intercourse ed workshops and assist consumers discover the right toys, lube, therapeutic massage oil and Santa-themed lingerie (yep, that’s a factor!) for his or her companions. Now I’ve a everlasting affiliation between the vacation season and the hustle and bustle of a intercourse store, and I like that for me.

Listed here are my prime suggestions for moving into the attractive vacation spirit:

  1. Get an attractive reward on your associate, your crush or your self. And a “attractive” reward doesn’t should be a intercourse toy! It may be cozy pajamas or a scented candle or an elaborate meal — something that may assist the recipient awaken their senses and really feel current of their physique.
  2. Should you’re an A+ member, get pleasure from some highly regarded holiday-themed erotica (and in case you’re not already a member for as little as $4/month, give your self the reward of a membership).
  3. Ship nudes to your associate or crush to spice up morale.

The vacations are sizzling as a result of it’s the time of yr when all the perfect fan fic tropes can be found to everybody! Physique warmth to remain alive? Verify. Just one mattress (trigger you’re residence for the vacations along with your FAKE GIRLFRIEND)? Verify. Enemies to lovers along with your highschool sweetheart? That’s like half of all Hallmark Christmas films! Mutual unrequited pining? Solely ten thousand instances higher this yr with the discharge of Purple (Taylor’s Model)! On prime of that, it’s tremendous sizzling to make out in secret in your teenage bed room along with your now spouse. Additionally: Candles, that are in all places throughout the vacation season. After which there was that one Christmas the place Jen Richards dressed up like Miss Claus, and I’ve nonetheless not recovered from that. So yeah, the vacations are sizzling.

Actually, I’ve by no means discovered the vacations sizzling? Although I’ve learn sufficient sizzling holiday-themed fanfiction in my life (what up nerds) to know that somebody out there’s discovering December attractive, even when not. Oh geez, I’m rambling. I positively ought to have gone with Riese’s reply of Christmas lights? That’s at all times a traditional.

Issues which are sizzling concerning the holidays: frosting, Star Shiny (the 1996 Vanessa Williams Christmas album), the colour crimson, candles, having quiet intercourse in somebody’s dad and mom’ home (sorry!), molasses cookies, cinnamon smells, balsam smells, shiny issues. However above all else, the most well liked vacation reward of all is Christina Baranski as Martha Could Whovier within the cinematic traditional, 2000’s How the Grinch Stole Christmas.

Christine Baranski and Martha May Whovier in How The Grinch Stole Christmas

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