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The Cups are additionally the swimsuit of water, and the Queen of Cups has her throne on a seashore.
Pricey Oracle, after two years of this pandemic, I’m exhausted and burnt out throughout the board. My mind feels fried, and emotionally, I really feel like a uncooked nerve. I really feel like all I want is “relaxation,” however irrespective of what number of hours of sleep I get or hours spent vegging out, I’m nonetheless drained. So how can I really feel rested and rejuvenated within the new yr?—Fried in Florida
Playing cards: Queen of Cups reversed, Seven of Cups, First Quarter, The Emperor
Pricey Fried, as somebody who just lately discovered herself weeping at a Toyota industrial, I sympathize with feeling like a “uncooked nerve.” This little conflict continues to be raging, and I personally don’t know anybody who’s bopping via this pandemic fully unscathed. It’s a tough time, my expensive, and I’m sorry that you just’re struggling.
Once I pulled your playing cards, I positioned them as “what kind of relaxation you want,” “how one can get that relaxation,” “how one can preserve,” and “what this relaxation will result in.”
To start out off, the kind of relaxation you want is the Queen of Cups, and also you’ve wanted her for a very long time. The Cups are a swimsuit of feelings and relationships, and a purpose you could be feeling drained is that you just could be in a caretaking function for lots of different folks’s emotions. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith talks about seven varieties of relaxation you want, and he or she writes about emotional and social relaxation as having the house to be your entire self with none people-pleasing.
If this rings true for you, see if there’s a place the place you’re feeling like you’ll be able to let free. Do you could have any mates you will be susceptible with? Anybody you could discuss mad shit with? (Embrace your entire self!) That may assist, particularly should you really feel like most of your relationships are one-sided.
If the above doesn’t ring true for you, the reply could be religious relaxation as an alternative of social. The Cups are additionally a swimsuit of thriller, the unconscious, and The Divine. The Queen of Cups is on the threshold between worlds, holding a grail—in some decks, it’s actually The Holy Grail—and it wouldn’t be on the market to see this as an indication to look at your religious beliefs.
If you’re a religious individual, what does your observe appear like? For instance, may you make time within the morning for prayer or observe? May you see your self doing one thing immersive like a silent retreat? Becoming a member of a meditation circle? Turning into a nun?
Think about what you want to and turn out to be a bit rigorous with it. As a result of the over-sleeping and vegging out, whereas beautiful, are usually not going to do it for you.
For “how one can get that relaxation,” we’ve the Seven of Cups, which is an array of choices, together with ones that aren’t nice for you. On this case, I feel you would possibly want the choice for “self-control” over “self-indulgence.” Whereas self-care appears to have turn out to be shorthand for tub bombs and sheet masks, it’s additionally about doing tougher issues, like taking good care of your well being and clawing your manner out of a depressive episode. (Which this could be. Should you can, contemplate checking in with a therapist or physician about this.)
So be it religious or social, actually contemplate what you want and set some boundaries round that. If it’s social, schedule in time the place you don’t should be anybody’s caretaker. If it’s religious, carve out time on your observe and achieve this every day.
Forgive the irony of this sentence, however to be able to preserve your restful state, you want a plan of motion. The First Quarter moon card is one in every of decision-making and taking up challenges. It’s pushing your self for progress, and on this case, I feel meaning actually analyzing what’s draining you and sticking to a plan to assist heal that.
I do know that’s far simpler to write down than to do. We people are, sadly, human, and generally we’ll return to our outdated methods or fall out of our routine irrespective of how useful or good it makes us really feel. However attempt to be Zen about it, settle for your humanity, and begin once more.
On the finish of the “energetic relaxation” journey, we find yourself with The Emperor. This can be a card of motion and management, of rising to the peak of your personal energy. Holding in your observe of both social or religious relaxation and following that path you set will enable you to thrive. The Emperor is a personality of self-control and authority; he’s diplomatic however not a people-pleaser.
Should you’re on the social relaxation path, this can be a name to be assured in your personal authority. You don’t should please everybody. You don’t should be everybody’s dumping floor or sounding board. As a substitute, you’ll be able to set these boundaries and know that these enable you to turn out to be your greatest self.
Should you’re on the “religious relaxation” path, then contemplate what that might imply to be an authority in your religion. What does a religious vocation appear like to you? Do you need to attend seminary? Do you need to make your religion a extra central a part of your life? Do you need to turn out to be a rabbi, a yoga trainer, or a nun?
Neither path has a simple reply, however I do hope that you’ll be able to discover some therapeutic and a few relaxation and permit your self time to recuperate so that you could be bloom.
For what it’s price, The Cups are additionally the swimsuit of water, and the Queen of Cups has her throne on a seashore. So it won’t damage to take that picture actually and spend a while across the water, be it the Gulf or a river or swimming gap. After all, it gained’t clear up all the things, nevertheless it could be a soothing first step as you start your journey.
Take care, my expensive. Might the subsequent yr carry you the remaining you want.
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